Wedding Preparation TIPsy

Do you hear the wedding bells?

Being engaged means you are taking a huge step where you’ll be forever be in. Seeing and feeling that your partner is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life is SOMETHING…

Ready for the next step? It’s called WEDDING PREPARATION. Let me give you some things we learned as we prepare on our own wedding. We are no experts but hey, who knows how much help we can give, right?

We got engaged few years back, and due to the distance we have right now, we have to make time in order to talk and decide on things. What things? You’ll find some of them below:

  1. Date– This is where you really have to decide when is the RIGHT for both parties. Both families should agree to the date that you’re going to choose because this is the basis whenever you inquire for a venue, and other vendors (suppliers).
  2. Budget– VITAL, you and your partner have to decide on. This is when you’ll be a good mathematician. Hahaha. You’ll constantly checking on your budget and doing calculations if vendors’ service fees will fit in your budget. **Remember: Do not include in your calculations the amount of your guests, families, and sponsors will give on your wedding day. *_*
  3. Number of Guests– Okay, we’re getting serious. Talk to your parents, you’ll be surprise on how many people they want to include in your guest list. Try to make a draft then talk who you need to scratch (it’s a pain but you have to do it) if you’re exceeding from the number you should be inviting. Apart from the guests, you have to count the number of vendors who will enter the venue to assist you (photographers, videographers, hair & make up team etc)  **Remember: You have to check if the venue you’re getting will have enough space for the number of guest you would want to invite.
  4. Guest List– Make the list “together”. Make a initial list of your entourage, who will be what. Then finalize it after everything’s booked.
  5. Ceremony– Where are you going to do the ceremony?
    1. Do you want to do it in a church/cathedral? Then you have to start looking for one a year before your chosen date and book it. There’s a process, sorry buddies for I don’t know how they do it.
    2. Are you planning for a destination wedding? Ponder well on what you want: Garden… Beach.. Ranch.. Farm etc. Then find a licensed person to officiate your marriage.
  6. Venue (Reception)- Most of the venues right now can be customized. Consider the location where your ceremony will take place. Check the capacity of the people that can go in: Will you have enough space to move and groove or you’ll end up bumping on to each other? How far is the powder room/washroom? Is it communal or not? Is it clean? Ask for photos and check for the reviews. Do you see yourselves spending fun and memorable time there? Visit the place.
    1. Ask if they offer packages. Check and double-check the inclusions in each package:
      1. If the food and set-up are included. FOOD: Review their menus, ask if you can switch some of the dishes, or if upgrades are available. Choose your food and drink carefully. Also, don’t forget to ask if the drinks are unlimited or just one round.
      2. Chairs: Monobloc or Tiara?
      3. How about the event assistant, host/emcee? How many hours can you stay?
      4. Lights and sound system. How will it work on your wedding day. Check if you have friends or families who want to perform.
      5. Florist– this is one of the important details you have to consider for they are responsible for the entourage flowers, and possibly the set-up. Talk to him/her about the theme you want or how you want the venue and/or ceremony to look.
      6. WINE/LIQUOR- Is there a corkage for these? If so, how many bottles are free of charge? Try to negotiate. 😉
  7. Wedding Gown/ Suit or Barong/Entourage– Start looking for designs you want for the BIG DAY. You ask a designer to draw and do you gown/suit based on the location of the wedding, your body frame and of course, your budget.
  8. Photographer/Videographer– A beautiful and memorable day should be captured artistically and professionally. Find someone who you think can do that, consider your budget. **Remember: Hire a team who’s within the province or city where you will hold your wedding.

 

Those are just some of the things you have to really think about in preparing for THAT DAY.

It doesn’t really matter how grand or simple your wedding is, what’s important is how you rock your marriage with that person you choose to love forever.

Ciao!

Aside

Cried then Moved On

Goodbyes are not forever… that’s what other people believe.

I have been in a long term relationship. We were together for a LONG time, long enough that people around us especially our families thought we’ll end up saying our vows to each other. But then again, fate… destiny… made some twists and we end up parting ways and have our respective lives and career. I won’t tell you why we broke up, to be safe, it just didn’t work. The pain and struggle I went thru is terrible. T-E-R-R-I-B-L-E. It was unexplainable on how much pain I was in years back. I broke down in front of my family, I cried hard in front of many people (you know that feeling that you don’t care anymore because you’re feeling so much worse? Or those moments when your tears are just flowing?), in front of my friends, at work (even during. Whew!). As the saying goes, “you won’t know a thing until you experience it.”

So much pain… but I held on to God, to my family, to my friends and my work (it really helps when you busy yourself). I prayed harder, even crying while uttering my prayers. I gave HIM my broken heart and ask HIM to return it when it’s whole again. I was broken. And as I recall my experience, I don’t want to go back there again. Call me coward, but no.

A lot of people helped me. My bestfriend took over my facebook account (she did!). She deleted all the photos and changed my profile photo (of course, she chose the one she’s in it). After probably a month or so, I opened my account and decided to change its settings and newsfeed. It’s a trick I discovered. *wink! wink!* I don’t want to end up stalking him. 😀  went out with my family and friends. I highly appreciate my family’s efforts in helping me recover. Mom always cook my fave dishes! Weee. And me and my brother always watch a movie or two while sharing midnight snacks. The best! I guess it’s true when they say, whatever works. After months, I was pushed to go out on dates. My friends were excited for me to go out again and check on their “manok.”

God is the best! He helped me a lot in surpassing that phase in my life. Shout out to all my friends and co-workers, I love you guys! Especially to my parents and brother… I love you more. *hugs*

I am not angry at ‘him’ but I won’t be a hypocrite and say it was okay because it isn’t. I have matured and grew in our relationship that has taught me a lot of learnings in life and in myself. I still want to thank him for he’s an instrument in moulding me to the person I am now. We may not have talked to each other since then… I still prayed for his happiness… To be with someone whom he can be truly happy.

God let me feel all those pains and all those tears… taught me how to be strong for HE was preparing me to THE ONE. HE really has a great mind and a big heart. Thank you Lord!

Because… now… I am happy. It’s surprising how things work but I guess that’s how it is.

You may be experiencing what I have gone through… You may be hurting right now… You probably one of those who moved on… Or could be on your “recovering” or “moving on” phase… Remember, this too shall pass. And soon, everything will fall into its rightful place. God has better plans for you… a perfect one! Pray. Believe. Pray.

Happy reading!